As a Georgia peach, I know a thing or two about gossiping. At one point, gossiping was my favorite pastime. Whether it was celebrity gossip or about people, I knew. I am unsure if gossiping is a huge habit of Southern culture, but in the South, giving and getting tea.”
Gossiping in the Lord’s eyes is all the same, but there is also research to be done on gossiping about influencers and celebrity culture.
My pet peeve is when people act like they do not or have never gossiped before.
What is gossiping?
Casual or unconstrained conversations or reports about people are typically involved with information that is not confirmed to be true.
Definition of gossip biblically
- Proverbs 8:21 hints at watching what you say because it holds power.
- Romans 1:29 — talks about God’s wrath against sinful humanity.
- 1 Timothy 5:13 — Chapter titled Widows, elders, and Slaves ( ask God for guidance)
The Bible condemns busybodies who speak about things that are not proper.
There are over 30 verses in the Bible about gossiping, lying, and saying things that you should not.
This can be said for any problem that you are struggling with. My gossiping days I have started early. As a pre-teen, I loved talk shows, reality TV, and competition shows. I watched more reality than anything.
Whatever you ingest will appear in your life through actions and physical.
Be careful of the entertainment you watch
Monitor the shows you watch and how much you watch them. In addition, now we have social media. Your algorithm tells you everything you know about the type of content you consume. That popular American phase, you are what you eat, holds true.
On social media, go through and start unfollowing pages that post about celebrity gossip and influencers who do the same. Start liking posts that are different and teach you things. Recently, I followed pages that taught me things I wanted to know. I found joy in floral arrangements and recently found a floral arrangement page from Trader Joe’s that teaches others how to make flower bouquets with flowers.
Other pages include:
- Financial pages
- Holy girl habits
- Guides for low-budget self-love ideas
- Outfit guides and style influencers
With TV shows, start with monitoring how long, often, and what you watch. This allows you to gain an idea of what you find entertaining.
Your taste may change.
Your prayer life
You cannot do anything yourself. A glow-up journey is one of them. If you struggle with gossip, you will not be able to do this on your own. I have tried many times and found myself in the same position. Your prayer life and progress will go hand in hand.
Pray daily, whether at night or in the morning. Starting may be challenging because it gets to the point where you might wonder what to say. It makes it easier if you get a journal. Write your thoughts and write a letter to God.
The Bible tells us how to pray, and there is almost a recipe, but to be honest, there is no wrong way; God loves to hear from you and wants a relationship with you.
God left us a helper on earth when he left. The Holy Spirit
Your helper will be a guide to remind you when you start to slip up and also remind you of God’s promises when you feel like it is impossible to continue.
Mind the company you keep
Serial gossipers have serial gossiping friends! It takes one to know one. I am not going to tell you to unfriend people immediately. However, you will have to start with a conversation with your friend about your gossiping journey.
If you feel uncomfortable doing that, you can start by guiding the conversations to something positive or different whenever the gossip occurs. ( this will only work for so long until you have to have the conversation)
Once you have the conversation, note how your friend responds if they get defensive or say things like you think you’re better, RUN! I am just playing, but that is more of a reflection of them and not you. In a glow-up journey, you might lose friends.
You will gain much more whenever you lose while doing what God tells you!
What to do when you mess up
This is a journey that might take longer than you think. When you start to skip prayer days, that is when you might begin to slip into old habits. It happens, but do not let it keep you there.
There might be times in sentences while doing the act when you feel the spirit telling you to stop.
Listen to what God tells you in those times, and repent when you fall victim to gossiping about people. Make an effort to find new friends who are on the same path or ahead of you to help you keep on track. When you meet new women, you can tell pretty early on, based on your conversations, if they will be serial gossipers.
From moving to DC, I learned that meeting people who do not have mutual friends or know other people I do can be both a scary thing and a blessing!
Finding new friends is just like dating and finding a husband; it is just as important. A complete guide to finding feminine friends will teach you everything you need to know when getting to know new women during your journey.
Try this episode on feminine hobbies that can lead you to meeting new people
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