Let’s face it, online dating has become a part of most of our lives at some point or another. Whether it is Hinge, Tinder, Coffee meets Bagel (CMB), or Bumble post, by the time you finish reading it, you can set your profile up for success.
Your dating goals
Before I share the best things and ways to share on your dating profile, we have to go over your dating goals. Additionally, if you are subscribed to my blog your goal is more than likely marriage. but in the event is not, write done and establish why you are using online dating.
What do you want from this?
What are your dating goals?
What type of men are you interested in?
This post is not about rating the dating apps (although it would make for a good one) my focus is on you getting the best out of meeting men.
Your page should reflect your goals
All dating profiles have the same elements
- Photos
- Introduction
- Answered questions
- Interest
Select respectful photos
As a woman safety is always first, that being said all photos should not show landmarks around your house in a way people can find where you live. Be careful with showing photos of your family and others who did not consent to be on your dating profile. Public places, vacation photos, and photos that are already on your social media are safe choices.
Select photos that do not have you in clothing that is too revealing, we don’t want to sell sex.
Well-lit, high-quality photos that show your personality and things you like to do. Allow your photos to spark conversation so you do not have to do too much of the talking initially.
Think modeling portfolio
Introduction
If you aren’t too much of a writer, use chatGPT or your favorite AI to help write a compelling introduction. This is the second important part of your page! You want to make your introduction as blunt as possible.
The secret to weeding out people who waste your time is to not keep it too light-hearted.
For example, if you a celibate, say that! If you want to share your values and religion, do that too! You are only going to scare off men who are not for you. On the other hand, there will be a small number of men who may try to complain, but the overall goal is to scare away those who are not for you early so you do not end up wasting time.
Your introduction should include:
- Hobbies ( or things you enjoy doing)
- Beliefs
- One boundary
- Relationship goal
- One attribute you like about men ( your ideal man)
For dating apps that do not allow an entire bio, try to pick questions that will allow you to share this information in answer form.
The strategy
As a feminine woman, it is important to not always be on the offense. You do not do the chasing, you are made to receive. That being said, go through your likes. Do not swipe for hours on the page where the app shows you people you may be interested in, focus on men who like you. Depending on the app this may cause you to spend money on the premium version.
Once you match with a man allow him to begin the conversation. If you have to start with something simple. Hi, hello, how was your day or weekend goes a long way.
As the conversation flows, you will reach a point where men may say inappropriate things, and unmatch immediately. It is not your job to teach an adult to have manners.
Meeting men online is like meeting men in person at 2x speed. It is exhausting and many men will not be your person, which is okay. The trick is to get rid of someone who does not align with your values as soon as possible.
Dating apps for you to try
- Hinge
- CMB
- Bumble
- OkCupid
Until next time,
Imani
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